What is your attachment style?
Secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful: the way you love follows a pattern. Find yours in 3 minutes.
What you'll discover
- ●Your dominant attachment style among the 4 main ones
- ●Why you react the way you do when someone gets close or pulls away
- ●What you truly look for in a relationship (and what makes you run)
Possible results
- Secure AttachmentYou can be close without losing yourself and apart without breaking.
- Anxious AttachmentYou love intensely, and fear losing just as intensely.
- Avoidant AttachmentYou trust your independence more than you trust other people.
- Fearful AttachmentYou crave closeness and fear it in the very same instant.
Attachment theory, born from the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, describes how we learn to stay close to other people: how much we trust, how much we fear being left, how much space we need. These patterns form early but keep steering our adult relationships, often without us noticing. This 12-question test helps you recognise your prevailing style among secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful. It is not a diagnosis: it is a mirror, and an honest mirror can change a great deal.
A self-reflection and entertainment tool, not a diagnosis.
Frequently asked questions
What is an attachment style?+
It is the habitual way a person experiences closeness and distance in relationships: how much they trust, how much they fear being left, how much autonomy they need. It comes from Bowlby and Ainsworth's attachment theory and also applies to adult relationships.
What are the 4 attachment styles?+
Secure (calm closeness and trust), anxious (need for reassurance and fear of abandonment), avoidant (strong independence and discomfort with intimacy) and fearful or disorganised (desire for and fear of closeness at the same time).
Can your attachment style change?+
Yes. Research shows that secure, lasting relationships, awareness of your own pattern and psychotherapy can move a person toward a more secure attachment at any age.
Is this test a diagnosis?+
No. It is a self-reflection tool inspired by adult attachment questionnaires, designed to help you recognise your prevailing style. It does not replace a professional assessment.
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